Talking about this stuff can feel like the scariest thing to do. You might feel ashamed or frightened and worried about how the other person is going to handle it. Take your time choosing who you talk to, it’s okay to wait until you are ready to talk and until you’ve found the right person for you.

Lots of survivors (but not all) say talking is the thing that helps the most. It can be hard finding the right person to talk to but don’t give up. Sometimes people won’t believe what you tell them – remember, that is their issue. It’s tough, but keep looking for people to tell. You will find the right person eventually. Counsellors are usually great people to talk to and you need to find the right match for you. If it’s not working out with one support person, try another. You deserve to have good support.

Often the first people that survivors talk to are friends or their boyfriends/girlfriends. The main thing is to talk to someone you trust.


Some people you can talk to are:

  • Help lines (like Youthline 0800 376 633)
  • School counsellors
  • Family members/caregivers
  • Friends
  • Friend’s parents
  • Social workers
  • Nurses or doctors
  • Church leaders
  • Teachers
  • Police 

Whether you need help right away with a sexual violence situation or want to talk to someone or get advice on something that happened a while ago - here are some good numbers and websites to check out. Remember, if it makes it easier, you can phone these places anonymously.